One of the things that is so hurtful and maddening in dealing with personality disordered souls, is that when it's all said and done-they move on, apparently unscathed, seeming not to care, able to sleep, able to eat-and most likely with someone else.
As we feel despair the likes of which we've probably never felt in life before-they are 'fine'. In fact, they often rub that into our faces, particularly when they are LAUGHING. Laughing at our pain, our suffering and making a mockery of us.
Often this is what drives us to thoughts of revenge. We are driven to a madness because of all the crazymaking and hurt that has been done, and they get away with it. Scott -free. Essentially, they get away with emotional molestation and mind rape.
I wrote in an earlier post that this is a huge part of our pain-especially the burden of "proof" that seems to be on us, as they do walk away, calm, cool and collected, leaving us in shatters looking like we ARE the very "crazy" that he's blabbed all over town that we are. I wrote that in this situation, what can we do? It's not like there is emotional abuse court. There is no National Coalition Against Domestic Psychological Abuse."
Thanks to an article posted within a comment here by Julie-well, I may end up eating those words, and I would savor every bite.
I invited you to look at this article-if for nothing more, some hope. France is recognizing that emotional violence is AS BAD and IS a pre-cursor to more overt forms of abuse-and they may be setting out to do something about it.
You know why you should blog? For that reason. To keep a journal? For that reason. To tell your family and friends? You guessed it-DOCUMENTATION.
Because I will tell you something right now-that article alone almost had me thinking of getting a lawyer and suing the psycho that drove me to writing this blog.
After all-I am no Steven King, I couldn't of made up this shit if I tried.
And prior to the blog-I wrote a story of the relationship. No fiction, no embellishment, and people who could collaborate it, too. I did it because it was therapeutic, but had I known I could do it to give him that 'consequence'-I would of done that, too. People sue each other every day in the US for the most petty and bullshit of things. Finally, something that is worthy of restitution, and that could spare another woman from the clutches of these jerks. No, it may not "cure" an abuser, it may not "stop" one. What it will do is be on his record and other women will be aware of his history. It may not prevent her from being involved.....BUT....I think that for those of us who have been hit by this sort of psychological warfare-it is the checkmate needed to re-empower us in some form, and hey-if ALL the women they dated did this, maybe they'd be some sort of "repeat offender" and there would be more severe consequences.
I don't know how it would work, but you can't drive a car without a valid license, and if you keep getting moving violations you have to pay fines, higher insurance, etc. Some system like that might be just what the world needs, for the psychos committing emotional crimes.
I will be watching this closely to see how it develops, but YEA FRANCE!!!!!
How bout we pitch this to the state of California? They always set the precedent here in the states.....
http://womensrights.change.org/blog/view/france_proposes_tagging_psychological_abuse_measures_against_domestic_violence
Thanks again to Julie for posting this article. This really made my day!
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