De-coding the psychologically abusive head games of Narcissist, Sociopaths and Psychopaths. Welcome to Psychogate.
"Abuse" is a powerful word. Yet fitting. Some of the cruelest forms of abuse are invisible, hidden, covert and ambient. I am not a professional but I have de-coded the mind invading games of abusive people. Though I don't intend on making light of this subject, one has to have perspective when realizing how ridiculous the games are. Like the little man behind the curtain of OZ, once you strip away the ruse, YOU get your power back. If you can catch it while it's happening, you can avoid becoming brainwashed and a target to these types of people.
This site is for ANYONE who has suffered from an psychological abuser...and even those who ended up being abused in more overt or physical ways. Anyone who needs healing, of any sex, color, age, creed, background or culture. It doesn't matter if you dated, were married to, related to or worked for....anyone who's been abused this way can benefit. Abuse is not a "female" problem. It is a HUMAN problem.
"WHEN PEOPLE SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM."-Maya Angelou
I went from smoking 2 packs a day, drinking beer with whiskey chasers and loving my steak rare to no smoking, rarely only red wine drinking total plant-based diet. My exercise used to consist of running for the bus because I was late for work, dancing in the clubs like a stripper and the occasional walk of shame. While others were jogging at 6am, I was driving, drinking massive amounts of coffee, smoking and passing them because I was headed home after being up all night, wondering how they could ever get up so early just to get up and run. I was the quintessential 'party girl'-well past my prime as a girl-but I envied that yoga doing jogging chai drinking quinoa eating clean living individual I'd pass in the dawning hours. Life responded by giving me a heart attack along with atrial fibrillation-that, after a breast cancer scare-and now I became the one jogging on the side of the road in the early a.m.
Of course, this was ridiculously not easy for me and I fought it for a long time. In fact, I stayed drunk the first 3 months after my heart attack, eating Bacon Lettuce and Tomato pizzas and giving NO f*cks about it. Slowly though-my determination to live became as tough as the metal stents in my heart and here I am-finding the lifestyle changes surreal yet at the same time became so easy and the physical changes for the better began almost immediately
. As a mother of 2 young adult women, one in particular with a heavy interest in healthy eating on the cheap-I began this blog to help them learn how to eat right on a budget. Food truly is our medicine-but can also be our poison. My goal is to share my knowledge with them so they can avoid the pitfalls I had to go through myself. And share with friends that health eating can be delicious, it can be cheap, it doesn't have to be all about exotic, weird and unfamiliar ingredients, it can and IS a lot of fun and economical as well. Hence my blog.
(Yes, I also have another blog which began about 6 years ago. As a party girl it was easy to end up dating psychos-and that is the blog I wrote to help people spot them better to avoid being tyrannized and emotional annhilated-if not straight up killed by them. Check it out!)
Many of my post will highlight artwork done by Jasmine Cook. Here is her bio, with information about her art and how to connect with her.
Jasmine Finberg-Cook received BA’s in Psychology and in Visual Arts, graduating with honors from Bemidji State University, Minnesota in 2001. After receiving her MA from The School of the Art Institute of Chicago in Art Therapy, Jasmine has worked in a variety of inpatient and outpatient treatment facilities as a registered art therapist with an assortment of client populations ranging from adults with severe mental illness, adult female substance abuse recovery, childhood survivors of trauma and abuse, adolescents with mental and physical disabilities, as well as, “at risk” children and teens. Currently, Jasmine resides in sunny Phoenix, Arizona were she attends to her two-year old son, creates mixed media artwork, and completes on-line courses in order to obtain her licensed professional counselor credential in hopes of one day having a private art therapy practice.
View Jasmine’s artwork on FaceBook or MySpace For more information, please contact Jasmine directly at: Finberg79@hotmail.com
Ascension of Jesus, by Salvador Dali
Through the grace of God, the holy spirit and the love of Jesus, I am blessed to survive and live to tell you all of this. Blessings to all those reading this blog. RIP Jennifer Leigh Ogle, gone, but never forgotten