Why does he pick us? Part one

Then why us?

A few years ago, psychologist came out with a term called “Emotional Quotient.” This was to measure a person’s emotional capacity, versus “Intelligence Quotient”, otherwise known as IQ.

There are many people with above average IQ’s, who score low on EQ. A high IQ means that you are often successful, cerebral, driven, intellectual and can function just fine in society….even if your EQ is low.

A high EQ can exists even if a person’s IQ is average or below. ….but a high EQ is a rarer breed than a high IQ.

Trouble I think can certainly ensue, for those with a high IQ AND a high EQ. Not only does one with a higher IQ have more awareness of the world, ponder the existence of man and generally over-analyze and think too much, but coupled with a high EQ, they also feel everything intensely. I believe artist, musicians…creative types in general, probably score highest in EQ, with or without a high IQ.

We all know the measurements for determining IQ. But what of EQ? EQ is one’s ability to feel compassion, empathy, lack of prejudice, ability to put themselves in another’s shoes. it’s the ability to understand how another person may feel or think in a given situation, even if they themselves have never fully experienced it. It is the ability to love, forgive, to nurture and care for, and most importantly to be able to get out of one’s self and sublimate personal needs for the betterment of other’s. it’s the ability to understand rather than to be understood, to comfort rather than be comforted, and to over all want to make a difference and do good in the world. It is not fame seeking, social climbing and it is not shallow….a person with a high EQ sees the hearts and souls of others, not the bank accounts, job positions, material possessions, name dropping or body image of others. It really could care less about how one looks or what they drive, it cares more about the heart and soul of the person.

High EQ people are very sensitive and often tragedies around the world can deeply affect them, whether they know anyone in the areas or not. The nightly news can trigger disturbing thoughts. Those with high EQ are prone to depressions and anxieties, and coupled with a higher IQ which is more likely to be aware of many injustices and craziness in the world, it can really become a tormenting way to live, if there isn’t great love and support around these individuals.

And those with high EQ are susceptible to being abused.

Abusers have a very low EQ. Oh, they feel greatly about themselves, and their feelings, but their ability to feel for others is limited, indeed. Often, a mark of an abuser is their inappropriate emotional responses. They will laugh and seem un-affected by things most would find disturbing, and they react with anger and rage towards kindness and love shown to them.

In most cases, they are very backwards in their worldview, emotionally. Which is why you will often see them professing love for those who are just like them, and seeming to hate those who offer them what would be considered a normal, healthy love and relationship.

Do people with EQ also have an above average naivetivity? That will be discussed in the next post.