Women are abusive, too

There is no doubt. Women often have personality disorders that are just as debilitating, hurtful and damaging as men. Often professionals feel that women have “borderline personality disorder” while the men have “anti-social disorder.” Though both will contend that either sex can have either condition.

No matter. Again, the diagnosis is not as important as the effects that these people have, including women.

Women will and do accuse men of abuse, i.e., molestation, rape, physical assault-when its not true. One woman I heard of blackened her own eyes, then called the police and said her boyfriend did it. They came to the bar he was at, enjoying a Friday after-work beer, and hauled him away.

She then ran away with their kids, and put a restraining order on him. The judge of course, granted it.

Women will use a man for financial gain, and pretend that there is love there. A woman will cheat on a boyfriend or husband, and is often more sneaky about it than a man.

Women will profess love for the “nice guy” who is taking care of her, while meanwhile seeing the “bad boy” behind his back. She will often simultaneously be sleeping with more than one man.

Some women have been known to intentionally get pregnant by a man, as a means to control him, keep him in her life, or out of spite.

Women's excuses for their abuse are often linked to biology-they blame their periods, bad PMS's, hormones, or things like depression. Sometimes they too say its because of an abusive ex, or someone sexually assaulted them when young (to excuse their promiscuity now.) I even heard of one woman who used the excuse of having A.D.D. for why she couldn't seem to stay faithful to any men she was with.

There is no question that women will lie, cheat, manipulate and verbally and emotionally abuse the men in their lives. They will feign the “helpless female” as she gets often more than one man, to “do” things for her-fix her home, car, lawn, take the kids out and on vacations, buy groceries, pay a bill, pay the rent, and will even get a man who doesn’t know any better all riled up and willing to kick the ass of another man, simply because she claims the other guy is abusing her.

A woman will intentionally go out with her boyfriend or husband’s friends, just to make him jealous. She will tell a man about how much a man at work is hitting on her, how a guy at the shop she is always at is stalking her-anything to get the attention and to “test” the love of her current partner.

Women can be extremely vindictive and revengeful, backstabbing and harming reputations, calling wives, girlfriends and giving out details, or dishing text messages to magazines.

Some women when angered, will get violent in terms of throwing things, attempting to hit a man, or will go so far as to hurt herself for his attention. I have seen women fake “suicide” attempts for attention, or to lie and claim that another man molested her for attention. Often a woman will damage property that is valuable to a man-smashing windshields, computers, breaking fishing rods....in some way, taking something of his that he loves and "killing" it.

Some women will parade an endless stream of men into her children’s lives, not caring the effects of that on the children. Some women even allow the men in their lives to abuse the children.

There is no doubt that there are women in the world who are conniving, dishonest, immoral and narcissistic and socio-pathetic. They often use their sexually to manipulate men, and while narcissistic men can be just as charming and seducing, this tends to get women further than men.

Women can use brutal words of hurt and cut downs to the men in their lives, telling them things like they aren’t aging well, their penis is inadequate, she never loved him, she can do much better than a guy that does “this” for a living, that she could easily find a man who “had money”, and various other forms of emotional and mental abuse.

She can control and psychologically abuse a man with hot/cold games, on and off, up and down and seemingly only pay attention to him when he’s not being a “nice” guy. Then once he comes back around and she knows that she “has” him, she runs off with some other guy.

She will tell a man that he’s not her type, she only wants to be friends but then sends the mixed message of sleeping with him, taking his money and favors, and then when he wants more, will go back to saying that “you are not my type.”

A woman can tell a man that if he only did this, that or the other thing, then maybe she would be interested. She, like the male abusers, can make a man feel insecure, inadequate, not good enough, not “manly” enough, not “breadwinner” enough and not sexually satisfying enough.

Women can also cut a man out of her life at the drop of the hat-as well as deprive him of visitations with his children. She can consistently take him to court for more money for child support, even if she has enough to comfortably live on without doing so. She can petition the courts and take the children far away from the father. When there is a new relationship, she can encourage the children to treat the boyfriend as “dad” and can make up stories about the real father, so those kids don’t even want to see him.

As stated, a woman can use the system to her advantage both in divorce and in child care cases, which cost men both emotionally and financially to try and fight her.

A woman is more likely to spy and stalk in covert ways, utilizing key loggers, gps’ and private investigators on a man, while abusive men typically just follow and break into her computer, cell phone and email himself.

All told, abuse isn’t biased against one sex or the other. The reason that domestic abuse gets most the attention as women being victims, is because women tend to be killed. While there is the occasional story of a woman hiring a hit man, a woman poisoning her mate, or taking a knife and stabbing him, when we hear of women “going crazy”-the majority of the time, she is out to harm or kill THE OTHER WOMAN involved with a man, not the man himself.

Also, a woman is less likely to physically intimidate and beat up a man repeatedly. The only real control a woman has, is psychologically.

Which as we all know-is just as harmful as overt abuse. But women do financially, sexually, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and psychologically damage people. If they too, are personality disordered.

So again, this isn’t a man-bashing, man-hating, men suck blog. This is an abusers suck, narcissist suck, sociopath psychos suck blog.

Just for the record.