Sex and the psycho, part 2

No Glove, No Love

These men hates condoms. A big reason they don’t like to wear condoms is, it isn’t about a nicer sensation without it. It is in fact, the “power” to implant “themselves” inside a female.

If he thinks he can get away with it-he will not use one with you. If you are like me and hypnotized by his spell cast on you, you will take this as a sign of his fidelity and his trust in you and commitment. That he must really care, and especially when he thinks its romantic that you will have him dripping out of you all day, or him lining the insides of your uterus, or he can look at you in a crowded room of men and know that you have HIM all up in your grill. He will tell you things like that.

However those are the real reasons. Its’ about him. He is so power hungry that he will risk getting you pregnant, or catching a sexually transmitted disease, because it turns him on that his seed is germinating somewhere near your cervix. He also implies at the time, that having a love child with you wouldn’t be so bad, that he would never abandon you or said child if you should happen to get pregnant. Some abusers actually try to get females pregnant, because it is even more power for them-and ensures at least 18 more years of having someone around to wield power and control, and gain supply from. Conversely, and sadly, some women feel that having his child might in fact, change him, and that he will do the right things by her and for his child, the child being the impetus for him to change.

However, with many abusers, if you are only dating and your relationship has not reached the level of “boyfriend/girlfriend commitment”, if you were to ever get pregnant or have a pregnancy scare-watch how fast he tries to talk you out of having said child. He’s all about him inside you, but watch how much he doesn’t want to watch part of him running around outside you. Naturally, you too are risking it if you are not on birth control and with the way he is, the risk factor for STD’s is high, but you are like Alice in Wonderland right now and take the whole thing as you two are that together.

He could then turns this around on you, and say that it bothers him and he doesn’t like the fact that you are let him sleep with you without a condom! He thinks YOUR crazy for it. Granted, if you knew the truth of him you are…but when you point out that he’s being a hypocrite- he shuts you down. And if he suddenly goes from not wearing condoms with you to insisting that you do-that could be a sign that there is someone else in his life that he is out to control. If you should suddenly realize that he may not be honest and start insisting on condoms, he will either a) get angry that you don't trust him or b) accuse YOU of sleeping around. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Like with everything else concerning your psycho.